For 2009 I resolved to be more inclusive with my wife. I resolved to try and include her in more of the plans and activities that I do so that she does not feel left out. This in itself seems quite noble— but in reality it has been very difficult to do.
Perhaps it is because I did not define it very well. I sometimes make resolutions that are vague so that I can create some sort of accomplishment and have some wiggle room to make it work. Unfortunately, this one was very vague and did not contain any objective goals that I can look upon and say to myself that I am moving in the right direction.
Perhaps it is because I told my wife about it. Sometimes if someone knows your plans they can object to them a lot easier. I think that because I told her, she knows that I am trying and can therefore call me on it if I fail. If I did not tell her my resolution, then perhaps if I did fail I would be the one who could hold my failure against me.
As with all of my resolutions, they do not stop with the end of the year. I can use my lack of accomplishment for this resolution as a motivator to keep this one in my back pocket and strive to look for progress without the time constraint of one year.
Do you have resolutions from this past year, or even next year? Did you manage to keep your resolutions? Do you let your resolutions carry over to the next year, or do you make new ones for the upcoming year?
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That could be a resolution or a death wish! hahaha!
Resolutions are tough. I don't think I followed any of mine last year and this year I'm setting the bar LOW and not making any. You should do the same! :)
Happy New Year!
I admire your resolve to include your wife in more things you do, but sometimes my husband would rather I do things on my own, like the grocery shopping. It turns out I come home with a story every time about how the store is cheating us or so-n-so did this or that. He would rather stay out of it. :-)
You're linked! Happy New Year, Christopher!
I can't ever seem to keep to my resolutions. I resolve not to make any. Happy New Year to you. Hope you have a great 2010.
Good idea including your wife. I don't think I made any resolutions last year, but I'm working on a few for this year.
Happy New Year.
Ah, I understand the third paragraph really well. If you tell someone what you are thinking, and you fail, they can definitely call you on it. Sometimes that is scary! Good luck with this year's resolution.
Last year, my resolution was NO resolutions:) It was an enormous relief to take the pressure off myself! I am making the same "resolution" this year!
Wishing you a wonderful New Year filled with much success and joyful times!
Aloha Cajoh! How's my favorite wise man. HAPPY NEW YEAR!
I don't make resolutions. And if I do they are so vague that I never tell anyone, not even myself. This way I am constantly bumbling my way through life, which is what I'm best at.
LUB YA! Give your wife a hug from me. Or at least include her in the hug I'm giving you right now.
btw, did you know your blog is surrounded by trees?
You're not out of the woods yet, I guess.
I think your resolution is a grand idea! Including your loved ones is always an enjoyable experience.
As for me. I never make resolutions. I hate the idea of failure. I live day by day...and hopefully each day will some day be better than the last.
this year I decided not to make any resolutions I just can't seem to keep them - if anything maybe just try to improve on who I am and enjoy life :)
SOunds like a great idea!!!
Good luck with your resolutions. Mine often are the same year after year, as I can't seem to stick with them.
A sincere thank you to all and wishing you a great new year and a new decade as well.
Resolutions are for over-achievers. I do admit that I've always sort of bought into them: New Year, New Me, Gonna change what I hate, etc., but they never seem to stick. At some point I just decided to accept me for me. There are a lot of things that I should resolve to do, but I'm getting to old to make major changes.
Props on trying to include your wife though. We love that!
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